• SHARON ALVA East Bay Digs

A Woman's Home is Her Castle

Updated: Oct 16, 2019

What if Rapunzel owned the tower? What if there was a fourth little pig and she built her house as a wood frame construction with concrete pier foundation? What if Cinderella married the prince, it didn’t work out, and she got the castle in the settlement?


One of my dearest friends said to me once “we were set up”. Those fairy tales set us up to expect that a man would come and take us away from all our hard and thankless work, and we would live happily ever after. We would move “from our fathers house to our husband’s house” without even searching online once to find our very own property. And while we have switched so many narratives, this one we tackle quietly, without fanfare even if, finally, without shame.


In 2018 one of five buyers was a single woman. Far more than single men. Yet many women still feel that they should wait to buy a property until they can do it with a husband. Finding the right house before finding Mr. Right feels like putting the horse before the carriage to many young women. It is a condolence prize when coupling didn’t happen as expected. Yet women, who according to studies tend to make less high risk choices, are opting for the wisdom of real estate investment. What they’re not doing is celebrating that smart choice.

So here is to the growing number of women who are boldly building their portfolios with a primary property and investment properties to boot.


In a famous and much quoted decision from 1604 lawyer and politician Sir Edward Coke declared that “the house of every one is to him as his Castle and Fortress as well for defence against injury and violence, as for his repose” which over the years has become simplified to “a man’s home is his castle”.


This was established as common law by Coke, in The Institutes of the Laws of England, 1628: "For a man's house is his castle, et domus sua cuique est tutissimum refugium [and each man's home is his safest refuge]."


All this is fine for the gentlemen but what of the gentlewomen?!


I invite you to join me for a series of classes for women who are buying or selling real estate, or even those looking to become investors. Welcome to Her Castle…because a woman’s home is her castle.

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